Skip to main content

Helping Kids Sleep In Different Homes After Separation Or Divorce

 After their parents get divorced or separated, children react in many ways. They often regress in some of the areas of their lives after such a traumatic event. Some will change their eating or toilet habits or even sleeping routine which can be very stressful for them and their parents. That is why helping kids sleep in different homes after separation or divorce should be dealt with properly. Here are some tips to help you do it.



Leave their room as is

Suddenly having two homes instead of one is stressful enough for them, so you should at least try not to introduce other changes in their lives. If you are the parent who stays in your old family home, don't make any alterations around the house, especially not in your child's room. Children take solace in their toys and objects in their room just as much as they do in their parents, siblings, and other relatives. They are probably not so excited about adopting to your ex-spouse's new home, don't make them feel the same at your home.




If you are the parent who has to find a new home and set up a bedroom for your child, find out how they feel about the idea before doing it. Let them choose some new toys and items for their living space when they are staying with you. Hopefully, you will have your goods moved to another address in the same city so that you can be able to spend more time with your child after divorce or separation. Don't forget to bring some family photos that will help your child feel more comfortable in this new environment.

Try to stick to the previously set sleeping routine

Children thrive on predictability - that is one thing you should always have in mind no matter what you are trying to achieve with your child. Not being on the same page with your ex-spouse about your child's sleeping routine can cause many problems. Again, the best thing the two of you can do is to maintain the pre-divorce routine you practiced with your kid. However, that is not always possible. Sometimes, the kids will react even if you try to do all the same things. In cases like these, the parents should at least try to stick to some basic rules like:

• putting their child to sleep at the same time in both homes;
• not sleeping with your child if your ex-partner is not doing so either - we will get to this in a minute;
• reading bedtime stories, cuddling, talking or watching videos - a child will find it difficult to fall asleep if one parent is practicing these routines, while another simply leaves him/her to fall asleep by themselves;


 

Routines can be slightly different

You and your ex-spouse are two different persons and you are obviously not living in the same home anymore. That is why you cannot expect the sleeping routing to be exactly the same at his/her place and yours. Don't forget that your child will need some time to get used to their new bed and everything else in a room. However, you should both try to keep bedtime as similar as possible. That will make your mornings with kids easier too!

Stick to a schedule

As we have already mentioned, children feel most comfortable when they can predict what's coming. That is why it is important to come up with co-parenting schedule as soon as possible after the divorce or separation. Don't hide your plans from your kids and tell them when they're going to their other parent and what days they are spending with you. They respond well to this type of routine and the alterations can lead to frustration. The emotional distress they are experiencing can affect their sleeping habits too. Kids might be too sleepy or unable to fall asleep for a long time at night.

Let your child have a bag of favorites

Children usually have their favorite blanket, pillow, soft toy, or some other object they are attached to. If that's something they are used to falling asleep with, you should encourage them to maintain the same habit even when they go to spend time with their other parent. Let them choose what they would like to pack for their stay at dad's/mom's. Having a piece of an old home with them when they are in a new one will certainly help them adapt quicker.



 

Ask for help when you need it

Even breakups are tough, let alone divorces and separations. When kids are included, things become even more complicated. You might feel overwhelmed and in need of some professional advice. Don't let anything stop you there. Your children are the most important persons in your life, so you have to do all that it takes to help them (and yourself) cope with the new situation. Finances are often an issue after the divorce, but you can save money on your move by calculating your expenses in advance, and prepare your budget for professionals who can help you and your children deal with stress.

Is it ok to share a bed with your kids to help them sleep in different homes after separation or divorce?

Many parents fall into this trap, especially when trying to sleep-train their kids. Letting your kid sleep in your bed is not a lasting solution. Plus, it is definitely not the way for you to get more rest as a new parent. It is ok to comfort them when they are sick or traumatized, but this should be the exception, not the rule. If your kid gets used to sharing a bed with you, they might find it even more difficult to fall asleep at their other parent's place. That will make things only worse.

Give them time...

Kids are usually more resilient than we think. With our love and support, they can adapt to anything. Helping your kids sleep in different homes after separation or divorce is important, and if you remain consistent you will succeed!

 

Comments

  1. What a sentimental article! When my parents divorced, I was very young and it was very difficult for me, because the process was very long and difficult. Now I am in the same situation and am afraid of harming the psyche of my children, so I turned to the https://onlinedivorcetexas.com so that everything would go quickly and painlessly and my wife and I remained on good terms

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Copycat Boston Pizza's Bandera Bread

Have you ever had a craving for something but then once you looked at it you realized, I can make that myself for next to nothing? That's how I felt last night I thought about ordering in some food but then realized I really don't want to spend any money. I really wanted pizza bread from Boston Pizza. So I recreated it and oh my goodness was it ever good. Try some of these great recipes too!  Pizza Bread Dough 1 cup warm water 1 tsp instant yeast 1 tsp sugar 2 cups flour  Seasoning 1 tbsp melted butter 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion salt 1 tsp parsley 1 tsp rosemary 1 tsp basil 1 tsp oregano 1/2 tsp sugar 1. Combine the water, yeast, and 1 tsp of sugar in the mixing bowl and let stand for 5 minutes. Add the flour and salt and mix until a ball of dough forms. Roll ball onto a floured counter top and knead for a couple minutes.  2. Put dough in an oiled bowl and let rise for 30 mins in a warm place with a clean cloth draped over top. While your doug

Affordable Ways To Make Your Home Look Luxurious

How do they do it? Professional designers seem to pull it off so effortlessly, but how will you make your home look more luxurious? You could just employ a professional or you can personally undertake the task of transforming your home into a place of luxury on a budget. In order to save money on your purchases, be creative and vigilant in your pursuit for the perfect style. Follow our budget-friendly ways for making your home a vision of luxury. Think it through, choose a style Luxury look isn’t enough to go on, so before you start shopping and wasting your money on furniture and decorations you might not even use in the end, first do some research. Go online and do some window shopping and find which style is more to your liking . An elegant Victorian style or something more modern and chic? Don’t get me wrong, you may want to mix and match, but before you commit by buying anything, consider what look you are going for. White is the color of elegance Choosing white as yo

3 HOME IMPROVEMENT TO MAKE BEFORE MOVING IN

While shifting to your dream house, you may face a mountain of pre-move work, including downsizing, packing, hiring moving trucks, and other help. When you already have a list full of tasks, home improvements for the new house might be the last thing. However, handling the new house renovation before moving in is convenient for you in many ways. Planning home improvement is exciting and stressful both. If you are moving to a house that is not entirely ready, you have massive things to do. To make things smooth, create a list based on priorities. If you are shifting to a freshly build house, you do not need to make a lot of renovation, though you can add a little personal touch to it. When you make house changes before moving in, you can save your floor and furniture from paint spills. You will have an open space to plan the house interior. You can protect yourself and your family from hazardous odors and dust. There are several home improvements like removing popcorn ceil