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How to turn errands with your child into a budgeting lesson (and still keep your sanity)

There’s not a parent alive who doesn’t dread bringing their children with them when running to the store. In fact, I’m surprised that grocery stores don’t offer a childcare service for parents – I’d be willing to forego half of my grocery budget to pay for that. I have a six-year-old girl and 3-year-old boy; rarely is there a shopping trip with them where one of us doesn’t leave in tears.

A way to make shopping trips with the kids less painful while also teaching them important money management skills. I’m not saying that our shopping trips aren’t still fairly painful (I’m only human), but at least now I feel like there is some good that is coming out of these torture trips. Below are my tips for teaching your kids about money before, during and after the store.

1 -  Allowance: In order for your child to learn how to budget, they need to have one important thing…money! Yes, I’m talking about allowance. I’m a pro-allowancer (trying to make this a real term), and believe in starting allowance as early as 4 years old. I know, I know…allowance has become the latest and greatest parent debate. The “right” way to give your kids an allowance is a topic of conversation and source of stress for many parents. Which makes sense, because we’re parents and stress is what we do best. However, as a financial professional, I can officially tell you that there’s very little proven “right” or “wrong” when giving your child an allowance. As long as you follow some basic ground rules and stay consistent, you (probably) won’t completely ruin your child’s money management skills for life. And keep in mind the purpose of allowance. It’s simply a tool they can use to practice and learn about money management.  Click here for more on best practices when structuring your child’s allowance.

2 - Spend/Share/Save: Every time your child receives money, whether it’s allowance or gift money, make sure they first put some of it away for savings, some for giving and the rest can go towards spending. This “three piggy bank system” gets them into the habit of not spending everything they make.  I like using clear mason jars as piggy banks, so they can see their money grow (literally). It doesn’t really matter how much they put into each jar, as long as they put something into each.

3 – The Spend Jar: Explain the jars to your child. For the purposes of this activity, we are focusing on the spend jar. Tell your child that the money they put into this jar is for whatever they want to buy. Ok, let me backpedal a bit. “Whatever they want, within reason (and mom determines reason)”. When I first started this program with my daughter, I made the mistake of telling her that it was “her money” and she could spend it on “whatever she wants”. I learned my lesson after a few traumatic trips to Target with my daughter screaming, “but you promised I could buy whatever I want! You promised this was my money! You PROMISED!”, all with a death grip on a six-pack of Mountain Dew, a hammer (“But it’s PINK!!”) or something equally as child-unfriendly. So do as I say and not as I do. Give your child some guidelines, like they can’t buy something that’s alive, dangerous or has more than 300 g. of sugar. 

4 – Stop buying “stuff”: This goes hand in hand with number 3…stop buying them stuff. You know what I mean. At the grocery store when your child is begging you to buy them some gum, cinnamon flavored toothpicks, sprinkles, a bottle opener shaped like a frog, etc. We all are guilty of it once in a while. We buy them that god awful bottle opener that they have zero use for, but it will give us 7 minutes of peace, so we get it for them.

This is the most painful step of all of them - stop doing that. Be sure to warn them before you venture to the store. Tell your child that having their own money to spend means that you aren’t going to buy her anything on this trip. She can buy something as long as she has enough ‘Spend’ money.  Their spend money then becomes the “Mom can I have that?” fund.

One of the most important budgeting concepts a child can learn is that every purchase is a decision. Every time they use their money for one thing, it means they can’t use their money for something else.

Then every, and I mean every, time you step out of the house with your child to run an errand, tell your child to bring their spend money. Even if you are going to the hairdresser and dry cleaner; you may think you’re safe, but you never know when a seemingly innocent store will have a bouncy ball machine.

5 – Bite Your Tongue:  Let them buy that horrific toy that you know they will lose, break, forget about or hate within 45 minutes. Every time they say “can I have it” you answer, “of course, as long as you have enough money” (see the exceptions in #3). Let them make mistakes. Bite your tongue and let them buy the overpriced emoji shaped squishy ball. Let them experience the disappointment first-hand of making a bad money decision. This is not to be sadistic (promise); it’s the only way they will learn and then want to avoid the same mistake later. Allowing them to make mistakes now gives them practice, when there are no real consequences. You don’t want them to learn how to make spending mistakes at age 20 when they are buying their first car, renting their first apartment, etc.

6 – Discuss: Finally, talk to them about it. And I don’t mean what we all want to say, which is “SEE!!!! I’m not just an evil mean mommy who doesn’t want you to have any fun!!! This was a crappy piece of junk toy and I KNEW it would break!!!”. Instead, ask them how they feel about it breaking. What else could they have done with that money?  Gently suggest next time maybe waiting a day before they buy a toy, to make sure they really want it.

Which by the way, is another win/win for the parents. You’re welcome.

Liz Frazier is the author of  “Beyond Piggy Banks and Lemonade Stands: How to Teach Young Kids About Finance”, [Fall 2019] a guide to help parents, caregivers and educators teach elementary school kids the financial basics. In addition to her CFP, Frazier holds an MBA from Wake Forest University and is a member of the Financial Planning Association (FPA) and the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors (NAPFA). She is also a regular finance contributor on, focusing on everyday personal finance that anyone can understand and use; her articles provide real world simple, accessible, and entertaining financial advice.


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