Not only are we discussing whether female ejaculation, or squirting, is real, but we’re trying really hard to dispel some really silly myths. LELO’s sex experts dug a little deeper in a series of articles published on LELO’s brand blog - here are the main conclusions.
The first question on everyone’s mind - Is it real? Or is it pee?
Squirting is real, alright and no, it most certainly isn’t pee!
Why is there even confusion around this?
Whereas there is definite empirical proof of existence for both the G-spot and Skene’s gland (paraurethral gland), much like the ephemeral and mysterious female orgasm this fact escapes the minds of many.
Biting sarcasm aside, paraurethral glands (there can be more than one) are mucus glands located in the vaginal wall and they deliver secretions into the female urethra near its opening. So, major distinguishing factor: urine is accumulated in your bladder and then expelled via the urethra, but the fluid visible as the result of female ejaculation is secreted from a series of glands responsible not only for the resulting ejaculation but also for a multitude of other sexual functions, such as producing lubrication and keeping you clean and healthy. It’s not a by-product of your bladder.
We haven’t really answered our own question though, why is there even confusion around this? It’s there because people are not listening. Simple as that. Moreover, the terminology used to describe this natural occurrence wildly varies - female ejaculation, squirting and G-spot orgasm being the most frequently used terms. A G-spot orgasm does not imply squirting. Some women do, some don’t. With some it’s voluntary, with some it’s an involuntary reflex. The glands responsible are anatomically near or even a part of the G-spot, but they are not the same thing. You can read more about it in this article about squirting on LELO’s blog.
So… Why is squirting banned in the UK?
Female ejaculation was just one of many sex acts outlawed by the British government from being depicted in pornography. Without venturing too deep into the problematic of the fact that male ejaculation definitely isn’t on the banned list, this fun fact from the UK most certainly testifies to the fact that the male and female orgasm are perceived differently. It’s an orgasm. That should be the end of the story, right? One of LELO’s experts wrote a very illuminating and honestly kind of funny article about the realness of squirting and the insanity of the aforementioned ban in the UK.
Okay… But can I squirt?
We mentioned earlier that for some women, squirting is an involuntary reflex. So don’t be unfair to yourself and feel bad about something you most likely have zero control over. Contrary to what you might have seen in porn, squirting orgasms aren’t the be all end all.
However, if you’re curious, here’s another article by LELO’s experts that reads like a how-to squirt guide for beginners! To save you some time, the keywords are patience and relaxation. Anatomically speaking, like we have already mentioned, the glands responsible for female ejaculation are located very close to the G-spot so your best bet is to try a really good G-spot massager, like LELO Gigi 2 Lie back and relax, let your mind take you to your naughty place and let your orgasm build. Most women describe a G-spot orgasm build up like a pressure on their bladder (we really cannot escape that pee), so don’t be surprised.
The rest of the tips and tricks are right there, one click away!