Here come the waterworks: Understanding the mystery of the female body and sexuality

The anatomy of female pleasure seems to pose more questions than offer clear answers. One such is the question of squirting and/or female ejaculation.

Cluelessness about the female body and female pleasure runs deep in modern societies. Understanding pleasure still has no place in modern sex education, and if it does sneak its way into it, it is still more about the male sexuality. Overall, the male sexuality is even now more privileged in comparison to the female sexuality. Take for example the clitoris. It was lost and rediscovered throughout history and It was not until 2005 that the Australian urologist Helen O’Connell revealed its full anatomy.

And yet, there are facets of female sexuality that continue to baffle scientists. Squirting for one. Squirting is a powerful bodily experience coming from the vulva or vagina. This involuntary emission of fluid (or squirting) can happen before, during, and after orgasm. It can even happen without orgasm. And as squirting is a natural part of the female sexual experience, it is time for people with vulvas to be completely open about it and learn as much about it as possible. So, let’s dispel some common misconceptions about squirting. These may not be that new, but it is worth repeating them.

Squirting is a new discovery
In fact, it is not - first mentions of the “female semen” date back to the Kamasutra, but the popularity of it is a more recent thing. According to Pornhub, the rise in the search for squirting videos increased between 2013 and 2015, and it is still one of Pornhub’s Top 20 categories of videos.
The ubiquitous question - is it pee?
No. It is a watery liquid and is released through urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. It is either milky white or clear like water, and has no smell. Since it comes from urethra, it is not to be confused with the cervical fluid that lubricates the vagina when a woman is colloquially said “wet.” It feels like peeing, but it is not pee. And yet, sometimes it can be accompanied by an urge to pee or even small amount of pee. Don’t overthink it, and don’t let it ruin the experience. Thinking too much about it may lead to hindering the capacity to squirt. Pee before having sex, relax and focus on your pleasure.

All women can squirt
Well, yes and no. The research in this department leaves a lot to be desired, but it is definitely more common than women think. Estimates say that up to half of women ejaculate, with some scientists suggesting that all women ejaculate and yet do not know it, as the fluid goes back into the bladder which makes it hard to come to any clear conclusion. Let’s just say that the strong stream expulsed from the vulva, as you might have seen in porn is not that common in real life.

Squirting = female ejaculation
Again, there is no unison decision on this. But there are scientists who believe that these two should not be used as synonyms, as these two phenomena have different points of origin and do not happen simultaneously. While squirting comes from the bladder, female ejaculation comes from the Skene’s glands.
 Squirting is the result of the G-Spot stimulation
Much like the entire phenomenon of squirting, the jury is out on this one. There are proponents of both yes and no answer, but there seems to be a general consensus saying that if you want to increase the odds of squirting, you should focus on another great mystery - the elusive G-spot.

You need a partner to squirt
Most definitely no. Arguably, you need to be in tune with your body to be able to squirt and in order to be in tune with their body most women need solo play. As stimulating the G-spot increases the chances of squirting, use your fingers or a toy - stimulating the G-spot, as well as the right clitoral stimulation and/or vaginal stimulation with the like of LELO ENIGMA will make you ejaculate.
Partner or not, just like many women’s journey to achieving an orgasm, squirting requires sexual arousal, relaxation and being comfortable. Once you are completely comfortable follow these steps:

Step One: Get yourself in the mood by rubbing the clitoris. That will not only bring about sexual arousal, but will also allow blood to flow to the genitals. Take your time, it’s not a race but a fun adventure and a new way in which to get in-touch with your body.

Step Two: Move focus from the clitoris to the G-spot. Place your ring and middle finger inside the vagina until you reach an area that feels slightly raised and bumpy. This is the G-spot, erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra, and it’s found along the front wall of the vagina. Hint: You may want to use lube for this, to aid in comfort and ease. By rubbing your G-spot, you’re essentially moving your urethra so that it’s at a different angle to the bladder. In this way, fluid can be expelled easier. To increase your chances of squirting, try to keep your pelvic muscles relaxed.

Step Three: The art of squirting takes more time and a bit more effort than normal. It requires intense pressure that may be hard to achieve manually. For that reason, you may want to use a G-spot stimulator sex toy that can attend to your hard-to-reach places.

Step Four: When you begin to feel as though you’re about to urinate, this is when your squirting fun may begin. The pressure you feel on your bladder is the Skene’s gland hard at work! Note: Maybe put down a towel first though?! And have fun!

LELO is not just a sex toy brand; it's a self-care movement aimed at those who know that satisfaction transcends gender, sexual orientation, race, and age. We're offering the experience of ecstasy without shame, the pleasure of discovering all the wonders of one's body, thus facilitating our customers with confidence that leads to a fulfilled, intimate life. LELOi AB is the Swedish company behind LELO, where offices extend from Stockholm to San Jose, from Sydney to Shanghai.

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