If you have been reacting to an increase in anger and conflict from your children, you’re making matters worse. Many families have told me they are experiencing an escalation of sibling rivalry, power struggles, and people snapping at each other. One high school girl told me she feels like she is becoming an angry, mean monster at home. Beyond the obvious excuse of being cooped up in quarantine, this article will look below the surface to illuminate five underlying causes of these behaviors and what to do about it.
Whenever I see girls in my counseling practice with anger issues, I never focus on their ire. Like me, you can help your kids dive below the surface to figure out the underlying cause of their anger and then handle that effectively. All of the above-mentioned sources of conflict, i.e. root beer feelings, overwhelm, touch points, and lack of self-care also apply to adults. As we progress through the stages of the covid-19 crisis, consciously and regularly practice the self-care necessary to prevent anger and conflicts from taking over your home.
Tim Jordan, M.D. is a Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrician, speaker, author and media consultant, blogger and podcast. Tim is dedicated and passionate about serving children, whether it is in his private practice counseling girls 6 – 22 years; consulting with schools; speaking to parents; or facilitating at his weekend retreats and summer camps. His new book is She Leads: A Practical Guide for Raising Girls who Advocate, Influence and Lead.